What Is Love? Love Hurts? Fallin' In And Out? - Issues and Solutions

Such a nice topic to write an essay about - at least that's where I got the inspiration from to write about it. But I won't answer this question, I rather want to make some random thoughts about love and the basic, crucial things - I can write this with some experience so I can get into it pretty well. After all, you learn from others' mistakes.

Talking is Life, Talking is Love

Especially the second part.
I don't even reference it for referring's sake. Communication is pretty much the biggest reason many people fail in love and relationships. And no, I don't exaggerate when I say that.
For understanding where I grasp my thesis from, one has to know where I have it from.
Simply said, BlahTherapy (Link will be below). It is a site where people anonymously can offer help or get help from strangers. Or from professionals against cash. And you cannot believe how many people have love issues. Whether in relationship or wanting one, these issues all exist.
And 75% of them could be solved with simple communication. Three types exist predominantly:

1. Confessing to a friend who's close or who you're in good terms with
2. Mysterious silence and behavior change after an argument or other events
3. Getting mixed signals from somebody

There are other types like the outsider being in love with the popular person in school but that is something which doesn't need only communication but also confidence. So I'll drop that case for now.
These can be simply solved by talking. It will be awkward most of the time but if he or she's a friend, the friend should be considerate about the person confessing to him or her. If that friend already has a BF/GF, it isn't complicated either. Talking does help.

An analogy:
Not talking openly about your feelings is like willingly carrying a bomb. You carry it around only because others shouldn't see it and try to defuse it. But if no one does, it will explode by itself.

Bomb = love. It can drag you down when the other person doesn't acknowledge your love as existent. Also, when you wanna comfort your friend during hard times, the best friend or comfort sex cliché will kick in, too. And then you will feel more awkward probably.

Open and honest communication is important for even non-romantical situations. After all, it can do much to strengthen bonds between friends and it can develop deep care for each other. Then it can blossom in love but honest communication also means making your bounds clear. Whether you want a relationship or not if feelings are boiling and what not is included in making clear bounds.

Time Flies, Love Sometimes Faster

Ever had a crush on somebody? Surely it flew away after a few days. The problem is: it isn't like that anymore.
Very, very, VERY many teenagers these days tend to think that a crush is real love. "Why?", one might ask. I'm no real researcher but I think media really does its work there. Practically seen, I estimate that in half of "romance" movies or series, the characters only have a crush. And that this circumstance is sold as "romance" or "true love".

As a disclaimer, I don't find such movies bad. They can be really good and show some interesting plots or parallels to real life. But the problem is that especially girls (due to damsel in distress syndrome in movies) get tricked by a crush and have a fad for someone without really loving someone. It's admiration - not love.
If everyone was deeply in love with the one saving your life - police, medical, fire department staff and life savers - like it's implied in some movies, they would be hoarded by potential love interests in real life.

And of course, where such things occur, there still is the will to get into relationship with the person you have a crush on. Someone's inexperience or insecurity may give in to this offer and the perfect failing relationship can begin. There are always exceptions to the rule but it shouldn't be done.

Lover King - How Can I Serve Your Relationship?

Relationships, boyfriends, girlfriends: they all seem to be served to be consumed fast and quickly. Once together, three days later broken up. "But I had my fun, hadn't I?", "What an asshole, I should have never dated him in the first place!" - typical reactions after such relationships. What people do is that they force-feed themselves with relationships. One is not enough, let's get to the next one. After all, everyone needs a relationship to be happy like in those movies~
Not only is our communication faster thanks to internet, but our love life also seems to move faster and faster.

Kids and teenagers most of the time have no clue of what true love means or how two people can be happy forever. Some get implanted values and morals which are very dangerous and immature. Teenagers cannot be responsible for all of their actions. They have to make experiences with love - may it be relationships or how to behave in love matters. Even experience only observed from other couples is experience enough.

I'm aware that they cannot know everything even if they have their own responsibility already. But teachers or parents also have to take care that their life isn't getting out of hand.
Especially parents disappoint me in some cases. They give their kids no ideals in love or don't talk about it with their kids at all - thus, they have to get their love ideals somewhere - may it be porn, chick flicks or other things expressing some kind of love.
Again, communication is missing, this time between child and parent. And again we are at the topic of communication from another perspective.

Teachers...aren't parents. They can't do much either. They may give little hints or talks but they can't meddle into other's private life. Sex ed is something highly discussed in many countries and whether it should be taught to children or not.
The humble me at least stands positive towards it. But it isn't enough. How sex works is the least imporant thing. The consequences of unprotected sex are important. However, the most important thing in my opinion is missing - I'd like to call it "love education". What it means to be in a relationship, in love or how they can handle love matters best. THAT would actually do something. But I have never heard of such a thing existing so chances are very high that no school has that which I find very sad.

With this statement, I wanna end this article. Hopefully it will bring some ideas to the table which are of use and hopefully it will help some people with such issues, too.
Otherwise, hopefully y'all will take care!

Also, something I wanna know about you: which love or romance movies/series/games/song do you like? Which of these do you think are insightful movies?
Or why don't you like them?
I'd be glad about comments underneath to see that my post is appreciated. :)


Links and References:

BlahTherapy - http://blahtherapy.com/